New Mom Secret: I Can't Control My Anger & My Babies Pay the Price

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:


I have twin 4-month-old sons and I have lately been screaming at them. I feel awful, but if one is already asleep and the other isn't, my (very short) window of time to get to them before they wake the other up is quickly diminishing, and if one wakes the other, sleep is not happening. And if both aren't sleeping, I can't help both at the same time. It's maddening and sometimes I really can't help it. I yell at them. Even though they are babies. -- Anonymous

Parents are people and people get frustrated. We would all love to be those perfect few who never yell, who always stay centered and Zen even when our kids are killing us, but it doesn't happen.

The fact is, for many of us, yelling is an unfortunate part of being a parent. Your babies won't remember and you're still a good mom.

That said, it sounds like maybe you need some de-stressing activities. Try a yoga class or even a guided meditation at night. It may not help you avoid yelling every time, but if you can yell less, you will feel better. Besides, it's just nice to have some stress relief.

Do you have any advice for this mom?

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