New Mom Secret: I Don't Want My In-Laws Around

Sasha Brown-Worsham

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:

Ever since my son was born two months ago, my in-laws are around ALL of the time. My parents live in New York (we are in Tennessee) and have only visited us once, but his parents are here at least every other day for hours. His mother has strong opinions about everything I do and his father is even worse. He doesn't respect our house shoe policy (we like them off) and puts his shoe-clad feet all over our coffee table and couch, making more dirt for me to clean up. They don't help with the baby and just seem to want to fawn on him more than actually help take care of him. I feel guilty, but am going insane. -- Anonymous

Many, many new moms have been right where you are now. It's not easy.

The best thing to do is work out an arrangement with your spouse so he is the one telling them to back off rather than you. But someone needs to.

As new parents, you do need your personal space to be able to bond and be alone together. The rules of your house ought to be respected even if your father-in-law doesn't like them.

It sounds like things are out of hand and you need to have a serious talk with the hubs.

Do you have any advice for this mom?

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