It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.
When my husband and I got married, we said we would have more than two children. He wanted four, I wanted three. But then we had our first. She is 4 months old now, but the birth was horrible -- 50 hours of labor followed by an emergency c-section and I nearly died. It took me until almost now just to recover. I haven't been able to breastfeed and I've been battling depression. I love my daughter, but I never want to go through all this again. I am really almost 100 percent sure, but I feel like I am going back on a promise. — Anonymous
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You should probably not be telling us this anonymously when the person you ought to talk to is your spouse. Maybe he was freaked out, too. Maybe he is also questioning having more children, but you won't know until you talk to him.
You are only four months out from the birth, and I know you said you feel like you have just come out of the fog, but it takes even more time than that to really come out. Give yourself some time to make a final decision. You don't say how old you are, but you could likely wait a few years before ever having a second.
That said, some people stop at one and that's fine, too. I think the primary issue is just going to be communication. You need to talk about it. There are also options to become a mom again without giving birth. But step one is to talk to your partner.
Do you have any advice for this mom?