New Mom Secret: My Mother-in-Law Is Driving Me Crazy

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:


Ever since my little girl was born three months ago, my mother-in-law has been at my house morning, noon, and night. At first it was awesome. She did the dishes, let me sleep, helped me learn techniques with the baby I didn't know at first. But soon it became too much. She wants to do everything with us all the time. She practically wants to sleep with us! I have always gotten along with her, but I really can't deal with her and I feel guilty. She is my baby's grandmother. All she wants to do is help and all I want is her to be gone. — Anonymous

Ah, in-laws. There's no doubt it isn't an easy job to try to get along with them. As someone who lives far away from my in-laws (and their help) and whose own parents are only mildly helpful, it's hard for me to relate to your problem of having TOO much help. This isn't to say that I'm not sympathetic.

Certainly it doesn't make you a bad mom to want to spend time alone with your baby and as a family. On the other hand, it's nice to have help. I'm not sure if you have great communication with your in-laws or not, but this would be a great time to talk to her openly. Tell her your concerns.

If that doesn't work, maybe your husband can talk to her? It's important that you're happy. New motherhood is hard enough!

Do you have any advice for this mom?


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