New Mom Secret: I Turn Off the Baby Monitor

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:


My baby is 4 months old and we just moved her into her own room, which is just out of range for natural hearing. We discovered this one night when we accidentally switched the baby monitor off and slept through the night. We have no idea if she cried, but she was fine in the morning. Since then I have basically kept it off. Is that bad? — Anonymous

In a word, yes. At 4 months, you should probably know when your baby is crying. There are better ways to sleep train and this could even potentially be dangerous. What if she is coughing or spitting up and you don't know it?

Obviously, sleeping through the night is wonderful, but 4 months is a bit on the early side for that. As crazy as it seems to you now, you will sleep again and it will be lovely. But tuning your baby out is not the way to get there.

Do you have any advice for this mom?

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