New Mom Secret: We Have Sex With My Baby in the Room

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:


My husband and I keep our baby beside our bed in the bassinet and the doctor just gave us the OK to start having sex again. We started and it has been good except for one thing: I feel weird doing it with my kid in the room. We wait until she is asleep, but she is only 8 weeks and I'm not ready to move her out. I'm seriously starting to feel like we may cause her damage. Is that possible? — Anonymous

I'm not a psychiatrist or an expert, so you might want to run this one by a pediatrician or a psychologist just to make sure. That said, I'm a mom and I had sex when my babies were in the room. Sometimes it happens.

I will say that we got pretty creative with the places we had sex when our babies were little. There was a lot more afternoon couch nookie and a lot less in our bed at night. It was just uncomfortable. But I don't actually think it affects the baby, especially one as little as yours!

Good sex requires that you be relaxed, so if it makes you feel weird, maybe talk to your husband and go into another room? I'm sure there are options that would help you feel better. But it doesn't make you a bad mom to be keeping your marriage hot!

Do you have any advice for this mom?

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