New Mom Secret: I Hate My Baby's Name
It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.
This Week's Secret:
My husband and I worked for months on names while I was pregnant, but we never found one we liked. We figured it would come when he was born. Well now he's here and it took us three weeks to name him. We finally did and put it on the birth certificate, and three months later, I hate it. I really feel like he has the wrong name and it's driving me crazy. If I change it, I fear I will look nuts, but if I don't, I fear I will hate my child's name forever. — Anonymous
With my first, we found the perfect name we both adored. With my second, we weren't so lucky, and to this day, the choice we made haunts me.
So, I feel your pain.
That said, your son is a baby. If you're ever going to change his name, now is the time. If you really don't like it, it doesn't make you crazy and indecisive. Names are pretty important. Give it another month or so and if it still doesn't feel right, talk to your husband and find out what he thinks. Maybe you agree and you can make the decision to change it.
Do you have any advice for this mom?
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JennyG0929
I felt I made a mistake when we named our son, it just didn't feel right but it grew on me. Now that he is 7, I can't imagine him being named anything else.
RebeccaJill
I agree that a name is very important, however, this mom sounds extremely indecisive. Chances are that if she does go through the whole process of legally changing her son's name, then a couple of weeks or months down the road she's going to want to change it all over again because she changed her mind and no longer likes the name. I think she should just leave well enough alone. She already named the child. No one forced the name on her. Plus, what happens when the child grows up and finds out his name was changed? How is he going to feel about that? What if HE actually likes the first name better?
JessLogansMommy
I would only change it if you really feel like you can't live with it. Perhaps a nickname or a middle name might feel better. If you're going to change it, I would do it now to avoid confusion. Some people might think you're nuts, but it will pass.
jalaz77
Took her 3 weeks to decide a name??? Don't change it, you will never be happy....my girls name is very common, I did not care though I have like that name for years, my middle boys name is becoming a bit more common but not even on the top 25, I won't care either way, and my last boys name is not even on a top 50 list of names, again I don't care. I wouldn't even know any of this except people are so focused on looking to see how common my kids names are. If I like a name I will use it no matter how common or uncommon it is. Stick with what you have and move on.
hoticedcoffee
Oh please. The child has a name. She WILL seem nuts (deservedly so, IMO), if she changes the name now - he's a person, his name is a legal identity - it's not like she rescued a dog from the pound and can just call it something else. It took her 3 weeks to come up with whatever she 'hates', the kid could be 47 before she makes a decision about a name she 'loves'.
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