It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.
This Week's Secret:
My husband and I worked for months on names while I was pregnant, but we never found one we liked. We figured it would come when he was born. Well now he's here and it took us three weeks to name him. We finally did and put it on the birth certificate, and three months later, I hate it. I really feel like he has the wrong name and it's driving me crazy. If I change it, I fear I will look nuts, but if I don't, I fear I will hate my child's name forever. — Anonymous
With my first, we found the perfect name we both adored. With my second, we weren't so lucky, and to this day, the choice we made haunts me.
So, I feel your pain.
That said, your son is a baby. If you're ever going to change his name, now is the time. If you really don't like it, it doesn't make you crazy and indecisive. Names are pretty important. Give it another month or so and if it still doesn't feel right, talk to your husband and find out what he thinks. Maybe you agree and you can make the decision to change it.
Do you have any advice for this mom?
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change it! Choosing a name is so hard. It took my husband and I till about 8 months along to agree on a name we both liked for our first son. Now we're trying to come up with a number two name and are having an impossible time. It's not that we can make up our minds on a name we like. I have a list of my favs and him of his. We just don't like each others favorites! I have a friend whose ex filled out the form for the birth certificate and sent it off without her consent. He put on a name she had specifically said she didn't want. She tried to call her daughter by the legal name for several months but couldn't stand it. Once the ex was out of the picture she changed the name immediately. I couldn'nt imagine the girl being called by the first name. It doesn't suit her at all. She is totally a Ryleigh, not Rachelle.
I have a friend that was named Ralph Albertus the third...obviously a family name...guess what? His mom HATED it and always called him ROB...now that he is an adult he legally changed his name to Rob...if the name is really that bad it can be changed when he is an adult and its his choice...name changing in some cultures is not a strange thing...one Chinese culture starts with one name as a baby, a new name at adult hood and a name change any time there is a major life change
hey "tracy" everyone calls me Rebecca and as a child it was the only name i would answer too for awhile. turns out Rebecca was the name my mom wanted to give me but my dad overruled her. I have always hated my name, but I am too known by it to change it. I am going through the same thing right now with my 3 month old. we had the name picked out before this pregnancy, but it feels off somehow. Try out a new name and see
I had a name picked for my son, my first born, and 2 days before he was born, I changed it. Now, 8 years later, I still wish I'd given my original name I had picked out for him. His name isn't a bad name, I just don't think it suits him as well as the other name would have.
If you can't stand the name, change it now, quick, before's he's old enough to get confused about it. But you better be sure. Changing it once looks weird. You don't want to change it twice. My husband-to-be and I had names for the boy and girl we want the first week of dating, and never changed our mind. We have a second name if we end up with two girls, and are working on a second boy's name.
I have no advice when it comes to choosing baby names. I have 4 boys that I chose names for before I was 3 months pregnant. I didn't change the names at all during my pregnancy. I chose both a boy's name and a girl's name since I didn't know what I was having. I love my son's names. I think too many parents try to make everyone happy with the name they pick and it's not possible so just chose one you like.