New Mom Secret: I Really Hate My New Body

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:


I gained more than 50 pounds during my pregnancy and my doctor said it was fine because I was so underweight before, but I hated every second of it. I looked in the mirror and cried. People kept telling me it was all worth it, but I didn't think so. Now the baby is here and is 1 month old and beautiful and perfect, and I'm still 20 pounds heavier than I was. I can't enjoy my baby because I hate the weight so much. I honestly don't think it was worth it and I'm not sure I want another baby ever. All I want to do is work out and get this fat off my body. — Anonymous

Oh yeah. We have all been there (or at least I have). Baby weight takes a while to lose and for those of us who took a lot of pride in our physique, it can be hard to swallow.

That said, I promise it's worth it. Your anger and stress suggest to me that this might go deeper. Maybe some counseling is in order? Maybe this is an easy thing to stress about instead of the life changes that the baby brought?

If you try to get the baby weight off, it will come off. Maybe not as fast as you want it to, but it melts away eventually. The bigger issue is why this is so hard for you. I just wonder if it's perhaps a mask for something else that feels out of control. One month after a baby is not the time for extreme diets or other measures. I understand the misery of looking at your changed body, but your uterus may not even be back to normal less than one month out. Give it some time! Cocoon! Try to enjoy it as best you can. Months from now, the weight will be gone and you will be wishing you had.

Do you have any advice for this mom?


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