New Mom Secret: I Ignore My Baby

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:


When I first brought my daughter home three months ago, I assumed that I would spend hours singing to her and taking classes and going to the park (um, I live in New York City and had her in September), but now I just find myself plopping her in the swing or on the play mat or in the bouncy seat. She is perfectly happy but I feel like I am supposed to be doing something. Instead I just do house stuff or watch TV or email. Is this what motherhood is? . -- Anonymous

No!  It isn't! But it is what the first six months or so are like and you have no reason to feel bad. Your baby needs a lot of sleep right now and if she is not screaming, don't look a gift horse in the mouth!

It doesn't really sound to me like you are ignoring your baby so much as living your life. She is highly portable right now, so it is a good time to go to lunches with friends and let her sleep in the sling or car seat. It is a great time to get errands done or take care of house things while she sleeps.

Very soon she will be so active and exciteable that you would not be able to ignore her if you tried!

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