One detective in a small town is against co-sleeping. Probably because crime is slow or something?! Genius Detective Rick Decker reminded parents: "If something does happen and the child passes away the only thing you're going to be able to bond to is a cold piece of granite in a cemetery somewhere." Wow, brilliant man, don't you think? Here he is, making moms feel their choice to co-sleep will result in the death of their child. It's his use of the word bond that does it. Like a stake right into the heart of attachment parents.
Of course, he didn't take into account all the positive factors associated with safe co-sleeping along with the lower risk of SIDS. Decker clearly isn't AP. Which is fine. He doesn't have to be. Maybe he has a sleeping disorder or oh I don't know has a teddy bear fetish and there's no room in his bed for his kids (I'm kidding of course). But it seems to me like he's choosing to battle the innocent.
If you ban co-sleeping you might as well outlaw knives, too. A knife can kill someone right? If it's not used as it was intended ... for cutting up your meat or dicing vegetables.
Even the Terre Haute, Indiana, news is anti family slumber. WTHITV said "The safest place for your baby to sleep for at least the first six months is in a crib, not your bed." The attack on this AP practice is because our detective here says co-sleeping is to blame for the death of five babies in Wabash Valley in 2010. But when I dug a little deeper into some of these cases, there were drugs or alcohol involved.
One mom whose child died from suffocation from "co-sleeping" has been arrested several times on prescription drug fraud. Another mother's child died after that mom drank and then fell asleep on her child.
Shouldn't this detective instead be helping moms see the dangers in doing anything under the influence when a child is around? New York passed Leandra's Law that makes it a felony for driving drunk with a child under 15 in the car after 11-year-old Leandra Rosado was killed in a car accident. The driver, a family friend, was drunk.
We didn't blame the car in that tragedy. We blamed the person in control of the car. Her actions caused the death. Just like so many co-sleeping accidents. It's the fault of the person in control, the adult, who made a poor choice to co-sleep (or do anything with a child) while under the influence.
To Detective Rick Decker, I say this ... don't attack the act of co-sleeping. These women weren't co-sleeping for the bond, or so they can breastfeed more easily in the night. These women made a poor choice to take drugs or drink and then fell asleep with their baby. That choice resulted in the baby suffocating. It's tragic. And it's just not the same.
What do you think? Are you on my side or Detective Decker's? Is co-sleeping dangerous? Should it be banned?
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