Adriana Lima, the supermodel who strutted the catwalk last night for the Victoria's Secret Fashion show, depressed moms everywhere when she showed up with a perfect bod just one year after giving birth to daughter Valentina.
"I think a woman needs that," Lima told CBS yesterday morning about the changes pregnancy brought with it. She claims that it improved her skin and made her sexier all around.
What is Lima smoking and can I have some?
Sexuality post-baby is a mixed bag. On the one hand, I felt infinitely more smokin'. I made that tiny creature! In my body! Wow! On the other, my body, priorities, life, and outlook had changed in so many ways, it was hard to figure out just where sex fit into that.
I felt more vibrant and alive and powerful, but sexier? Probably not.
Lima, like any supermodel -- Gisele Bundchen and Heidi Klum come to mind -- is starting with a strong advantage. Her body was perfect before, it will likely be perfect again. Yes, even after gaining 50 pounds.
The rest of us are not quite so lucky. Our bodies are a strange mix of foreign and familiar after a baby comes. It's almost as though you take a road trip to some exotic, far off land and you have to explore the territory like you're seeing it for the first time.
It's a land that isn't comparable to the old one in many ways. Are we sexier now? Kind of. It's empowering, so in a spiritual sense, maybe we are. But Lima meant it in a physical sense as in better skin, more curves, and brighter eyes. And that is where I quibble.
Late nights with baby and first time mom stress do not clear skin make, my friend. Our skin is sallow and pale from lack of sleep and general overwhelmed-ness. Maybe even a year into the game, we have some clue what we're doing, but sex is usually much lower on the priority list.
I was in the best shape of my life before I had my kids, 28 years old and sporting a (near) 6-pack. I do not even look close to that now. I'm not complaining, but I'm also not lying and saying I look better now because, um, I really don't.
Mamas are powerful and strong and awesome, but sexy in a physical way? Not this mama.
Do you feel sexier post-baby?
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