A good babysitter has many things: patience, serenity, good hygiene. But does she also need a spotless driving record?
It seems parents are divided on the issue. There are some who would never even consider letting their babysitter get behind the wheel. Others go so far as buying the sitter a carseat for her car.
Both have their drawbacks.
The other day, my sitter took my children to a museum on the subway for the first time and I was a nervous wreck. Of course when she did it again, I felt better. We moms can be hopelessly paranoid, which is something we need to combat, not feed.
But no sitter has ever driven my children.
This is not because I have a policy in place. My current sitter has no interest, she would rather take the bus or subway. But I interviewed a sitter last summer who said it was her policy never to drive the children.
I kind of get that, too.
For some parents, it's just a safety thing, period. We all know children are far less safe in cars than anywhere else.
According to The New York Times:
The five things most likely to cause injury to children up to age 18, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, are: car accidents, homicide (usually at the hands of someone they know), child abuse, suicide, or drowning.
“Parents are just bad at risk assessment,” said Christie Barnes, a mother of four and the author of “The Paranoid Parents Guide.” “We are constantly overestimating rare dangers while underestimating common ones.”
We shouldn't be worried about kidnapping and the random thoughts that plague us and keep us up at night. We should be worrying about the little things: the 15-minute drive to ballet class, the 10-minute traffic-laden schlep home from pre-school.
It's a scary world and I know I'm a very bad driver. This little fact makes me seriously doubt the skills of any other driver. I live in the city, not in the suburbs, and I have access to a great public transportation system. Why does my sitter need the keys to my car?
But others aren't in the same position, and as one fellow mom pointed out: "If we trust her to care for our children, it seems natural that she would be a careful driver with our children as well."
Astute point.
The fact is, the world is a dangerous place and my kids are probably just as (if not more) likely to get into an accident with me behind the wheel as with her. If my sitter wanted to use our car with the seats properly installed and a tutorial on strapping the kids in, then I would probably say OK.
Do you let your nanny drive your children?


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I don't have a nanny, but I would honestly prefer that people watching my kids DIDN'T drive them anywhere. Not only because of the car accident risk, but also because I don't trust people to use the car seats correctly 100% of the time, and not do something stupid like leaving my kids in the car "just for a second" or whatnot.
My sister is a nanny and drives the kids she watches all over Seattle--to each their own. But one of the things I liked about having my son in a home daycare was that she lived about 5 minutes from us, I dropped him off in the morning, and he didn't leave her house (except for walks to the park) until we picked him up. I know some people are critical of moms who choose to work, but for me, one of the big perks was that I could do my errands at lunch and so my son spent minimal time in the car--a child's chances of being hurt or killed in a car wreck are so much higher than being abducted, etc and I was really happy to minimize that risk.
I'm not paranoid about it.
You live in NYC, right? A place where public transportation is readily available and people can live their entire lives without needing personal transportation. And there's heavy traffic.
It's a little bit different in most other places. Restaurants, parks and playgrounds, libraries, etc are NOT walking distance or close proximity to each other. As a matter of fact, where I currently live, most businesses and establishments are ALL in their own building, not connected. Lots of space. No subways, no taxis, poor or non existant bus system. Needless to say, that traffic isn't as bad as NYC, either.
Here, MOST people who drive have been driving since they were 16, with a learners or hardship license at 15. I know for a fact that's not quite the norm for a teenager out of Brooklyn. If that counts for anything, it counts for experience. During South by Southwest in Austin, TX, I remember a friend of mine from NYC telling me that it felt "surreal" for me to be driving him around in my personal car: "You must be like rich, or something!"
So no. Here, I would not feel uncomfortable with my sitters (which in this case, are my parents and 23 year old brothers) driving my son around.
My nanny drives my son around and I don't have a problem - but she also has 2 kids so she's quite experienced driving kids around! I too have the convenience that our nanny lives 2 blocks away, so I drop him off in the AM and pick him back up when I'm done with work.
I don't like anyone but my husband and myself driving our son around. Most people don't use car seats correctly...that's what concerns me more than someone driving dangerously.
I gave our Sitter a car seat in case she needed to go somewhere or to pick up her kids from school or anything necessary. I'd rather her have one than not, just in case!