New Mom Secret: I Think My Baby Is Smarter Than Yours

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:


I promised I wouldn't be "that" mom who thinks her (unattractive) baby should be a model and who thinks her (normal) baby is "gifted," but every day as I watch my daughter develop, I'm more convinced of her gifts. I took her to a modelling open call and do flash cards with her. I have actually canceled playdates with children I consider less academically advanced. I suspect it's the reason I have trouble being friends with other moms, but I still think my daughter is more beautiful and smarter than their kids. -- Anonymous

This one makes me giggle -- not at you, of course, but just at the general concept that this is a "problem." Everyone thinks their child is the most everything. The most beautiful! The smartest! The best athlete!

Some of us are right (like me, natch), but of course not all of us are. And most of our babies are (gasp!) normal. This is all part of the new mom experience.

I thought my daughter was the bee's knees when she was a baby. Now I look back at photos and think: Yikes! She is gorgeous now, of course, a fact she gets reinforced so much that she has taken to carrying a small pocket mirror around to ensure she is "beautiful." So, yeah. Think your baby is beautiful, but don't tell them too much or the lyrics from Carly Simon's "You're So Vain" will become your life.

In all seriousness, it's perfectly normal to think your child is amazing. But just be quiet about it. No other mom wants to hear about how your 3-year-old can read. And honestly, those moms with truly "gifted" children are quiet about it. They don't broadcast it.

Do you have any thoughts for this mom?


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