'Teen Mom' Farrah Needs to Get Old Fast

Julie Ryan Evans
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Farrah AbrahamFarrah Abraham of MTV's Teen Mom and 16 & Pregnant may be second only to Bristol Palin when it comes to famous teenage moms.

The 19-year-old's struggles raising her daughter Sophia have been hashed and rehashed by bloggers, news commentators, and the magazines whose covers she has graced.

Some argue she and the other teens on the show are glamorizing teenage pregnancy. Others say she's doing a great job showing young girls just how difficult life as a teenage mother can be.

But should her age really matter that much to garner all this attention?

What strikes me most about Farrah, especially in a recent interview she did with RadarOnline, is just how similar her life is to most mothers ... no matter how old.

When asked the most difficult part of being a teen mom, she responded, "Going to school full time, having a job, and being a great mom."

Substitute "getting my kids to school and countless other activities" and my answer to the difficulties of parenthood would have been the same.

What she misses most?

"All the time spare time I had."

Yeah, spare time, I remember that ... I think.

Her biggest fears?

"Unexpected death. Anything happening to me or Sophia."

I can't imagine anything worse than leaving my children or them leaving me.

And her favorite part?

"All the Love I feel, even when I feel all alone, I still feel the love."

Right on, mama.

Clearly there are difference between Farrah and older mothers ... but only sometimes. Plenty of mothers struggle as single parents, plenty don't have enough money, and way too many don't have the maturity to parent as they should -- no matter if they're 19 or 39.

In an ideal world, these should be the "best years of her life," but for many they're not, and sitting around dwelling about her lost youth -- by putting "young" mothers in such a separate category -- isn't going to help a teen mother or her children.

Motherhood is a struggle any way you look at it, and age in many ways is -- or should be -- irrelevant. Once you become a mother, you're a mother, and you have to figure out life around that.

By putting Farrah and other young mothers in a separate category, it almost gives them an out, an excuse, that they're not supposed to be as good as other mothers. And that doesn't have to be the case.

Do you think teen moms like Farrah should be viewed any differently than other mothers?


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