Coping With Colic: How to Keep Your Cool


Mom and BabyPlenty of moms of babies tell me they dread the night. During the day, they have a happy, smiling baby, but then something happens when the sun goes down. The crying starts. Then it ramps up. Then it goes off the charts. And they can't make it stop.

That feeling -- the one you get when you can't make your baby stop crying -- is one of the hardest feelings to deal with when you become a parent. But you can get through it. You have to remember that the best care for your baby includes taking care of yourself and keeping your cool.

Here are 5 strategies for coping with a colicky baby:

If your baby is crying more than three hours a day, three days a week for more than three weeks and you've consulted with your doctor to rule out any other factors of discomfort, you're probably dealing with colic. Now what?

Keep Your Perspective: You are not the reason your baby is crying, and it is in no way a reflection of your parenting skills. Don't even let your mind go there.

Get Help: If you can afford it, bring in some housekeeping services or a babysitter to play with older children while you take a nap.

Set a Schedule: Knowing if mom or dad is going to get up at night (or stay up) with a crying baby can keep your relationship on track so you can support each other instead of snap at one another.

Know Your Limits: If you feel stressed out, put the baby in a safe place and walk away. Try some deep breaths, call a friend, and take a minute for yourself. You'll be able to give so much more.
Count the Days: Colic isn't forever. The best advice to keep your sanity when your baby has colic is to celebrate the little victories and remember that it will go away.  
Do you or did you have a colicky baby? How did you deal with it? What advice would you give a mom on how to cope with the crying?

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MomIWant MomIWant

My son was colicky - just remember "this too shall pass"!  BTW, the baby in the picture is sooooooo adorable!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

nonmember avatar Infant Chiro

Chiropractic care for infants is one way to help relieve colic in infants. Chiropractic adjustments done by a chiropractor that specializes in pediatrics is very safe and gentle. For parents that are dealing with a baby with colic - there may be hope! It's worth a try for some peace and quiet!

Ashly... Ashlynnsmommy07

My BFF had a baby with colic, it was so hard!

sstepph sstepph

*Breathe* ,lol. I always cried when he would fall asleep cause I was so exhausted, but it honestly made me feel better and refreshed to let the stress and what not out!

hotic... hoticedcoffee

A very good friend of mine just finished up the 'colicky stage' with her new bundle.  Reiki helped her son a TON - I'm a practitioner, and treated him hands-on 3-5 times a week - she said he slept right through, except for the 2 AM feeding, on nights following a treatment.

Chiropractic can help, too, as the prior posted mentioned.

AmyJo... AmyJoJones

Chiro is an interesting suggestion - I'm sure mom and dad could probably use some chiro after a few night of pacing the floor with a crying baby!


My son was never fussy or colicky so I got lucky.  I have not known many friends who had colicky babies either but I can imagine it being incredibly trying!!

momx3... momx3gx1b

Maybe the baby has a cow milk protein intolerance.  If your baby is breastfed, call a lactation consultant and find out how to take dairy out of your diet.  If your baby is formula fed, try nutramigen or alimentium.  Both these formulas do not have cow milk protein.  Remember it takes 14 to 21 days for all cow milk proteins to exit the body, so be patient.  If it truly is a cow milk protein intolerence, you should have a happy baby. 

Note:  Soy contains cow milk proteins.  Check out:

tonya... tonyalynn

i was very lucky, and neither of my girls had it.

Carey... Carey2006

No thank God! Hopefully you live by family.....get some relief by having someone give you some time off....(away) even if it's just for an hour so that you can regroup.

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