New Mom Secret: I Nurse in Front of R-Rated Movies

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:

I am generally an anti-TV kind of mommy. (At least I think I am. I am kind of new at this.) But I had no idea when my baby was born that I was going to spend so many hours nursing her. She's three months old now and I'm home with her, and I would say I spend about five hours a day nursing her in front of the TV, mostly adult type shows and movies. I feel guilty, but I don't think it affects her; Or, does it? — Anonymous


I've been there, believe me.

My daughter was never going to watch TV, but when she was first born, I somehow made it through the entire series of Six Feet Under, Gilmore Girls, and Freaks and Geeks.

I also watched quite a few adult movies. And by "adult," I don't mean porn. I mean Midnight Express, Bridget Jones' Diary, and About a Boy.

Once she got a little older and actually looked at the television (maybe around six months), I stopped nursing her in front of the TV, but I'm with you. Eight hours tied to a chair gets pretty old.

As a more "seasoned mom," I will tell you that reading is pretty nice, too. Once your kids hit a certain age, you may not read again for a few years, so read all the novels you can now!

All that said, I really don't think it's wrong to watch some TV. Maybe keep the volume down -- have you considered wireless headphones? This might be especially helpful if there is violence or cursing, but overall, I think little babies just want to be held close and voices are just voices for now.

Do you have any advice for this mom?


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