New Mom Secret: I Buy Expensive Baby Gear I Can't Afford

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:

I live in a really expensive city. All of my friends have investment bankers, lawyers, doctors and engineers for husbands and we are barely scraping by. We are about $10,000 in debt on the credit card because I can't stop buying expensive baby gear -- the Bugaboo, the boutique, trendy clothing. My husband is mad, but I hate the idea that my baby won't have the best  — Anonymous


I know very well what it is like to live in an expensive city where the latest trends are all around you. I also know what it is like to be a new mom wondering if you can give your child all the things you see around you.

But you must stop buying things you can't afford. Now.

How will your daughter feel knowing she has to take out loans for college because you spent her money on a $2,000 limited edition Bugaboo? If you are in debt, you must stop spending. It is very simple. Do not spend money you do not have.

Besides, the one good thing about having wealthy friends? Good hand me downs.

Be happy with what you have: a loving spouse and baby, from what it sounds like. Volunteer, get some perspective. Enjoy your city. You have so very, very much that has nothing to do with designer gear.

Do you have any advice for this mom?


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