New Mom Secret: I Flirt Online When I Should Be With My Kids

Sasha Brown-Worsham
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It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets -- we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

An anonymous mom writes:

My husband is an amazing father and a great provider (corporate lawyer) who has given us the dream life: the big house in the suburbs, museum memberships, three organic meals a day, and plenty of quality childcare so I can go to the gym, keep my nails done, and have time to myself.

The problem is, I feel a little bad about how I use that time to myself. I am often on my computer and there is an old boyfriend I started chatting with on Facebook. We only dated briefly in college and never had sex. He is married now with kids and lives on the opposite coast.

Our talks went from mild to hot pretty quickly and now I spend a good deal of my day emailing and IMing him some of my most sexual thoughts and desires. This has been going on for months.

My husband and I have a decent sex life (maybe once a week), but we are more partners than anything and even though he is a great provider, I am restless. I should be spending time with my children and I feel guilty that I'm talking about sex while they play with their sitter.

If my husband saw these emails, he would be very upset -- and now I just started talking with another man and it's going down that road, too.

Is this mom the only one who does stuff like this? Are all moms on their computers frantically emailing past lovers?

 

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