New Mom Secrets: I Have Mixed Feelings on Having Another Baby

Jennie Canzoneri
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mom and babyIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

My husband and I talked at length about only having one baby before we ever got pregnant with our son. A small family seemed sweet and perfect for us, as we're a couple that loves to travel and we doesn't usually roll around in money in our spare time (meaning: we're not super well-off).

Both my husband and I work outside the home as well, and we more-or-less enjoy doing so, and while day care isn't quite as expensive as, say, our mortgage, we certainly couldn't swing paying for two tots in daytime care.

But I've been feeling these pangs lately, these will-I-ever-be-pregnant-again pangs? These I-miss-my-tiny-baby pangs, too. They are easy to push down, and there are entire weeks at a time where I feel very content with our one boy. During those weeks I think if he's the only baby I ever have, I'll still be the luckiest mom in all the world.

Sometimes I want a new baby and think of how beautiful it would be to meet another person who calls me "mom" and has my husband's laugh. Sometimes I think we're good just as we are.

Suffice it to say, I don't know what's going on with me, with us, with our family, and our future. I think I'm okay with the "not knowing" for now. Until these pangs turn into desperate roars, I think we'll enjoy our family of three and live in the here and now.

We've talked of adopting one day, and that thought still makes me happy, and maybe our financial situation will one day change and we'll eventually move to a bigger house and we'll feel without-a-doubt ready to have another baby. Maybe not.

Who knows! Not me!

But I'm curious when you knew you were ready to have another baby or were you ever ready to have another one? What was your experience with adding to your family after your first baby?

 

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