Babeland, the female-friendly sex shop was founded in 1993 in Seattle by Claire Cavanah and Rachel Venning and has since expanded to three New York City locations. More recently the two wrote the sex guide, Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex.
If you don't live close enough to a Babeland store to pop in with your burning questions, you're in luck because Bableand now has a blog, Moms in Babeland where these ladies talk love, sex and parenting.
Claire, Rachel, Anne and Krista can keep you informed of all things sex toy, as well as the latest news in the parenting and sex worlds. Staying positive about sex post-baby is a must, and as a mother to a four-year-old and a newborn, Claire knows of what she speaks.
For reminding us that sex is still a crucial part of being a woman, post-baby, Claire Cavanah is our Baby Mama of the Week.
Name one thing about you that would surprise your readers.
I’m always introducing our customers to the latest and greatest sex toy innovations, yet my BFF is still the Hitachi Magic Wand, and has been for the past fifteen years. It’s a classic, powerhouse of a vibe that has been around since the 1970’s. Even though I have access to all the best, new products, I still reach for my Magic Wand.
What is your proudest parenting moment?
Whenever my 4-year-old son shares things with his friends. It’s the smallest gesture, but just recently he shared a piece of candy with a little girl and it moved me to tears. Sweets are so coveted, it means a lot.
What's your secret coping mechanism?
I sneak away after the kids go to sleep on Monday nights to watch “Intervention.” I love stories about how people get the way they are and these stories are truly awful. It’s very urgent and dire, but well-done. You get to know these people and their families and see their progression from being full of hope to bottoming out and then, finally, the intervention that sends them on a different path. It makes me realize my life is a dream in comparison.
When your baby is old enough to Google, which blog post are you most afraid of him reading?
He’ll find a photo of himself in the window of our Brooklyn store. I stopped by the store with him on a Saturday afternoon, he was about two-years-old, and he was dancing in the window of the store, just happily enjoying himself. Then, I noticed a crowd had gathered outside with i-Phones in hand, taking his picture. It made the rounds of blogs instantly, of course. Surprisingly enough, the outrage wasn’t directed at the idea that a two-year-old was in a sex toy store, but that he was seemingly unsupervised.
What is the best piece of parenting advice you can give?
The every day minute, little details of parenting, where it gets really anal and obsessive, aren’t worth it. Be present and don’t worry about everything. It’s over in a blink and especially now that I’m with my second child, I understand how fast it goes.