Grandparents Were Made to Spoil Kids, Right?

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Kavi, California, Grandparents
Photo by Navdeep Singh Dhillon
My husband and I have brought baby Kavi to sunny California to visit her grandparents, her aunt Navreet, and her cutie-pie cousin Seerit, who's 19 months old.

Dadi-Ma and Dadu have been having a blast with their newest grandbaby, and she's all smiles around them. We even managed a few hours away on our own while Kavi stayed with Grandma, who's a seasoned vet thanks to Seerit.

Grandpa, though, you have to be a bit more careful with my kid.

He's apt to offer a (very) little one Coke Zero in the name of adventure and entertainment. My sister-in-law Navreet experienced that firsthand with little Seerit, who otherwise gets only organic milk and maybe the occasional juice. "Seerit loves it," he told her, genuinely unaware that he'd pulled a no-no. "I don't know why you thought she wouldn't like it."

With Kavi, we've also been trying to instill in her grandparents that while she may be intrigued by the dog, Moti still needs to maintain his distance. After all, at 3 months old, Kavi is really little. They're aware of this -- they went through this with Seerit too -- but sometimes their unconditional love for their waggly little puppy clouds their judgment. He is, after all, their baby. He has free reign over the sofa (and the beds, though they like to deny it) and likes to extend his territory whenever possible. So the occasional half-hearted "Moti, no ..." isn't really enough to convince him that he's out of bounds.

So, too, it plays out with Seerit. Her mama has tried to set some ground rules, and Grandma tries to be stern too, but occasionally bursts into laughter after attempting to be stern. Which makes discipline a game that Seerit wins. It's no biggie, really, but over the long-term, it could undermine mom's authority.

Right? Or am I just a worrywart? After all, they raised us, and we turned out just fine.

Do your parents spoil your little ones?

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