Baby Grandma of the Week: My Mom!

Grandma and Judah
In honor of Mother's Day, I turned the same five questions on my own mother, who's been catching up on my blogging here at The Stir as well as being a supportive reader in my many other adventures in writing. (Although sometimes that support comes in catching my grammar mistakes, as my mom is a retired English teacher.)

Grandma to Esme (age 4) and Judah (age 13 months), some of my mother's answers echo other Baby Mamas we've featured here at The Stir. Proving some things (like sanctimommies) never go out of style, even if we wish they would.

Here's Ruth, the Baby Grandma of the Week.


Name one thing about me that would surprise my readers.

That you grew up on a farm in Oklahoma. You don't look like or sound like other people in the area.

Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

It's not either one. Most people make assumptions about people from the middle of the country, and you don't fit the mold.

What's your proudest grandparenting moment?

Esme can be so sensitive to other people. She's not a pusher, like some kids can be. She's compassionate for a child her age. She doesn't steal other kids' toys and she seems to share. (AP note -- ummmm, sometimes.)

When you had small children, what was your secret coping mechanism?

I don't know if it's a coping mechanism, but I always felt like it was more important to play with the kids than to have a clean house. They're more important, and they're more fun.

When Judah is old enough to Google, which blog post are you most afraid of him reading?

I wouldn't want him to read any of this until he's much older. Don't leave it lying around!

I don't know of anything that you've done that's too terrible*; it's just that children don't really understand and could misconstrue some things.

If he was reading your screenplay (AP note -- I wrote a screenplay about a dysfunctional family), there was some language in there. Also, just the subject matter. Not because you should be ashamed of it, but would it bother him? I certainly kept a lot of stuff away from you guys.

What's the best piece of parenting advice you can give?

Oh good grief. Don't listen to any advice. If it works for you, it might not work for someone else. This goes back to your breastfeeding piece. Having a thick skin helps in just about every area.

*Pretty sure my mother hasn't read any of my Love & Sex pieces.

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