How can I cope after a miscarriage? Pregnancy Loss

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Miscarriage can be devastating. Here, an expert and moms who've been there suggest ways to grieve and learn how to cope with pregnancy loss.

Have Hope

"Coping after a miscarriage can be difficult. Having an understanding partner, family, and friends is extremely helpful. Do remember that having a miscarriage is almost always 'bad luck.' There isn't anything you could have done to prevent it. The vast majority of fetuses that miscarry are not genetically sound -- that sperm and egg just didn't get together properly. Unfortunately, the chance of miscarrying in any one pregnancy is about 15 to 20 percent. But if you've had one miscarriage, it...

"Coping after a miscarriage can be difficult. Having an understanding partner, family, and friends is extremely helpful. Do remember that having a miscarriage is almost always 'bad luck.' There isn't anything you could have done to prevent it. The vast majority of fetuses that miscarry are not genetically sound -- that sperm and egg just didn't get together properly. Unfortunately, the chance of miscarrying in any one pregnancy is about 15 to 20 percent. But if you've had one miscarriage, it does not raise your chances of having another miscarriage. So go ahead and get pregnant again, and expect a good outcome." -- Mary Jane Minkin, MD, clinical professor of obstetrics, gynecology, and reproductive sciences at Yale University, New Haven, CT

Take Time to Grieve

"I had a miscarriage and it tore me up. Allow yourself time to grieve; it is necessary. When and if you are ready, you can try again."

Don't Let Others Influence You

"Don't let anyone tell you that you 'can just try for another one' before you are ready. It is okay if you need some time, and it's okay if you decide you are ready."

Keep Mementos

"I had a special memory box created to keep the few memorabilia I had, such as the pregnancy tests, cards we got, and the baby outfit I bought as a way to tell my husband I was pregnant. I also got an angel charm for my bracelet to represent the baby."

Let Yourself Cry

"I had two back-to-back miscarriages, and it is never easy. All you can do is cry it out. I promise you as time passes, you will feel better. You're in a mourning period and it's normal."

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